How to Tell Your Parents You are Pregnant
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Are you a pregnant teen? Are you scared to tell your parents? If so, you're not alone. One in three girls will become pregnant before the age of 20
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How to Tell Your Parents You are Pregnant
If you're a pregnant teenager, how to tell your parents you are pregnant may be one of the most difficult problems you've encountered in life so far. Unfortunately, some girls are so scared to tell their parents, they runaway or hide their pregnancy,or abadon it after delivery. Don't let one of these examples be you. It will only cause more problems for you.
First, prenatal care is very important to the health of your baby. Did you know that babies born who recieve no prenatal care are three times more likely to have a low birth weight and five times more likely to die? Therefore, adequate medical care is very important
Secondly, being pregnant and alone is a very scarey and stressful time. Although I am sure you are terrified of your parent's reaction, most parents do eventually adjust and help their daughter. Going through pregnancy with the support of your parents will be far easier.
Unfortunately, there is no easy way how to tell your parents you are pregnant. However, realistically, waiting to tell them isn't going to make it any easier. First, think about how you want to tell them. Would it be easier for you tell them together or one at a time? If you tell them as a couple, timing is important. Try to pick out a time when they're not busy and relaxed.Don't beat around bushes. Just walk up to them and say, "Mom and dad I have something to tell you. I'm sorry, but I am pregnant, and I need your help and support." Like you've heard before, honesty is always the best policy.
After you have told them, they may yell or criticize. This doesn't mean they don't love you; they're just in shock. They will eventually calm down and come around. If they do react badly ,rise above them. Don't return like behavior with like behavior. It will only esclalate the problem and make matters worse.
If you can't tell both your parents at once, tell the parent you trust the most first. After he or she has calmed down and accepted the problem, they can help you tell the other parent. However, you may want to consider this. Even though it may be hard to tell them both at once, at least that way, you only have to deal with their reactions once rather than going through it twice.
If you can't summon the courage to tell your parents on your own, seek help. Find another adult you trust to go with you. Although it may feel better for you, don't choose a friend your own age. It could be a school counselor, a minister or priest, another relative, or anyone else you might think of. Sometimes, if another adult is present, parents will react differently because they don't want to be embarrassed of their reactions. Furthermore, if the discussion gets out of hand, the other adult can help intervene.
Although I don't recommend this way, if you can't muster up the courage to tell them in person, write them a letter. As I said before, just be honest. Tell them you're sorry and tell them how you would like them to help you. After you leave them the letter, go to an adult's home you trust. However, in the letter tell them where you can be reached, and you're ready to talk when they can discuss it calmly.
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Things You Don't Want to Do
If you're just about ready to deliver and still haven't told your parents, please do so! However, which ever way you choose to tell them, don't runaway away or abandon the baby. Again, believe me when I tell you, it will only make your problems far worse. Although at your age, it feels like you're invincible, you're not. What happens to other teenagers can just as easily happen to you. The following information are some sobering statistics for teenage runaways.If you were considering running away, think about these statistics. This isn't the kind of life you want for you and your baby.
- 12% of runaway youth spend at least one night outside
- 7% of runaway youth have traded sex for money, food, shelter, or drugs within the last twelve months. This is an old statistic from 1995.
- 71% of runaway youth are endangered by substance abuse, use of hard drugs, sexual and or physical abuse, being present in a place where criminal activity is occuring, or by being too young (under 13).
- 18% of runaways end up being in the company someone who abuses drugs
- 17% of runaways end up using hard drugs
- 95% of prostitutes are runaways. and the average runaway's first act of prostitution takes place at 14.
- 75% of runaways will become involved in theft, drugs, or pornagrapy.
- 12% of runaways end up spending time in place where criminal activity is known to occur
- 11% of runaways particpate in crime while on the run.
- 4% of runaways are physically assaulted.
Secondly, don't abandon your baby. Rather than abandon your baby and face legal consequences, there is a safe haven law. This safe have law is present in all 50 states. If you're a distressed parent, it allows you to avoid arrest and prosecution by surrendering your newborn infant within 72 hours to staff at any hospital emergency room or designated county site. Not only will they provide care to your newborn, medical treatment is available for the birth mother too. Privacy is guaranteed, and no names or records are required. You don't have to call beforehand; just walk in. After the appropriate care is provided, the infant is placed in the custody of the Department of Children and Family Services and placed in a foster or preadoptive home. If you decide you made a mistake in surrendering your baby, remember, it is very important you contanct the Department of Child and Family Services within 14 days. Their toll-free number is 1-877-725-5111.
Conclusion
Hopefully, after reading this article, you will have a better idea how to tell your parents you are pregnant. It won't get any easier to tell them by waiting, and the sooner you tell them, the sooner your stress level will go down, and they can start helping you. However you decide to tell them, don't avoid it. don't runaway or abandon your baby. If you have any problems. suggestions, or questions, please use the comment box below. I usually check this website at least once a day.
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Thank you, Ladybird. I can only hope this article will help teens.
Powerful article. thank You. I have three teenage daughetrs and pray I will always listen, be open and supportive of them, no matter what they say. Your article has reinforced for me, and reminded me, to keep my daughters close (emotionally) and to listen to them and try and understand life through their eyes. Thank you Ntathu
Thank you, Ntathu.
I enjoyed reading this article. I have not been in this situation but it is good to know for the future.
Thank you Louidam.
I knew some girls who went through this. You've helped shed light on a lot of things that many of these girls should have considered while pregnant.
Great hub! This can help guide a lot of girls in this situation!
Thank you mith! If it only makes a difference in one girl's life, I will happy.
I was a pregnant teen- and it has been twenty one years- I still remember the feelings of dread at telling them- I had finished high school and had a full scholarship to college- They supported me and we never looked back- but the anxiety of letting my family down still remains. My daughter- she is beyond the best thing I could have hoped for!
Hi Sandwich Mom
I bet you were scared in that situation. Thank you for sharing your experience so other girls in this position won't be as fearful and have an element of hope.
I think this is for all parents to read. Granite, I am 23 and had my first baby at 20, but it was still hard to tell my family because my then boyfriend of 6 months (now husband of almost 4 years) and I weren't ready AT ALL. It was harder to tell my dad because it was like here's your baby admitting she wasn't a virgin anymore. Talk about hard.
Hi Jkappelman
While I initially wrote this article for teens, you are very correct. It is a good article for parents to read too. Maybe for some girls, if the parents have read this article first, they will be more understanding. Congratulations on being married for four years! I hope parenthood and marriage has become easier for you over the years. God bless you and take care.
I loved this hub! You gave some great advice! If my two girls were ever to have found themselves to be preganant I would want them to find an article like this in assisting them in telling my wife and I!
Great Job!!
mdawson17
Very wise article.
I am the mother of one such teenage girl. She was afraid to tell me so she ran away. It was the absolute worst 2 weeks of my life. I found out through some searching her online activities that she was pregnant. I started putting the word out through every means available that I knew, that I understood and that I still loved her. When she did finally come home and we were able to talk, I let her know that first, and above all, I loved her. I was disappointed in that this was not how I had envisioned her life. It's not that her, or the baby, wouldn't receive my unconditional love for all eternity. It's just that I knew that this would be a very hard path for her to follow. No parent wishes difficulties on their child.
My daughter is now 18 years old with a 2 year old baby. I love them both and can't imagine life without either one.
I think sometimes with young teens, her mother is viewed as the one who will be raising the baby. Yes, I am responsible her this grand daughter in a way that I never was with the older ones. I was looking forward to the time when my kids were finally grown and now it's almost like I am starting over. If you are a young teenage girl, you must understand that is a legitimate concern on your parents behalf. You may have to assure them that you will one day be old enough and capable enough to handle things on your own. My daughter is married to the father. They do still need help, but they are on their own.
Hi MDawson
Thank you. I do hope some girls benefit from it.
Hi Zar
Thank you. I can imagine how terrible that feeling of not knowing where your daughter was would be. Thankfully, it sounds like everything turned out well in the end.
Thank you for stopping by and commenting.
I am currently 38 wks pregnant and am 24 years old. I still live with my parents and when I had to tell them it was a hard thing to do. I insisted on speaking to both of them at the same time AND with my fiance.
Thing is...my mom is a staunch christian, my fiance is a muslim....so you can imagine the issues we had. Also, my fiance and I were less than prepared for this, neither of us had own homes and both our salaries were less than stellar. My mother never agreed with my relationship because of the religion issue and because she simply felt he wasnt good enough for me financial and social class wise. We constantly got into fights about it.
So coming to say to her that I was now pregnant with this man's child was like Armaggedon approaching!!
It was a bit easier for my dad (surprisingly!)because he didnt have the hang-ups my mother did and had been slowly trying to get to know my fiance.
Months later things are a bit easier, we got married (much to my mother's diappointment - she claimed we had no need to)and both my parents have come to terms with my pregnancy. My mother even offered that I stay at home to get the support I would need after the baby is born.
This is a wonderful article because even at 24 years old...it was hard for me to deal with...I can only imagine how terrible it would be for a teenager.
Hi Jenna-L
Thank you.
It sounds like you have had a tough time, but I am glad your parents finally came around. Thank you for sharing your experience. By sharing your experiences, it will let other girls know they can get it through it too. God bless you and take care of you.
This is a difficult subject, well handled. Thank you for posting this x Society seems to make things difficult with prejudice attitudes..
i liked this article. im almost positive im pregnant, i've talked to my boyfriend and he is 100% behind me. im so scared to tell my parents, my parents expect so much from me. im their youngest daughter, all my other sisters got pregnant young. my mom even got pregnant at 15. i don't want them to hate me, i want their help and support but i doubt that's what im going to get. i've never felt like this before, i feel alone. i know i have my boyfriend but he says hes not scared but im terrified.
Hi Shazwellyn
Thank you for commenting.
Hi Kasey
I am glad your bf is supportive; I am sure that helps alot. As for your parents, they may be disappointed because it will mean changes for your life, but they won't hate you. I understand you being terrified, but in a way, you may have it easier in telling your parents than some other girls do since your parents have already been through it with your other sisters. Try not to worry so much; I am sure they will come around. Good luck! If you need someone to talk to in the future, drop me a line.
I know this article is on telling you parents you are pregnant, but how do you tell your parents you were pregnant but didn't know and then miscarried? I was 7 weeks pregnant an didn't know and miscarried. I feel I need to tell my dad but have no idea how.
Hi Michelle
First off, I am truly sorry you lost your baby. If you feel like you have the need to tell your dad, then do so. After your dad's initial reaction and he calms down, it wlill probably feel like a load has been lifted off your heart. Since I don't know your dad, I don't know how he will react. However, I am hoping that he will understand and by sympthetic. Unfortunately, there is no easy way to tell him. All I can suggest is try to pick a time when his mood good, and you are able to have some time alone with him without interferences from the rest of the family, and then just be honest with him. Tell him you have something serious to discuss with him, and you are scared how he is going to react. Tell him that this discussion is going to be very hard for you, and ask him to try to understand. After you get done prepping him for the truth, just tell him the truth, and don't forget to tell him you're very sorry for keeping it from him. That's about the best you can do. If you're religious, ask God to be there with you and help you. I wish you the best, Michelle.
thats a really good article. I think im pregnant now, and im 15. I have looked up stuff about pregnancy, and i really think i am pregnant. The bloating feelin, the late periods, the headaches, tingly feeligns in my hands, the dizzyness, being clumbys (but i was always like that). I would be about...5 weeks pregnant i think. I told my step sister how i had sex, and think i might be, and she is going to buy me a pregnanct test, because if i am, i want to get the proper stuff for my baby. But if i am... idk how im going to tell my father. I know he want hate me, but he will be disapointed ,and that will be worse. But if im not pregnant, idk if i will tell him i had sex. But i might, just so i will be able to get the pill or something, so this scare doenst happen again
Hi This1Girl
Because of your age, I hope you're not pregant, but if you are, don't take to heart what your father says. Yes, he will be upset, but he will eventually get it over.
As for birth control, although it would be better if you could abstain, I understand that is hard and even if you do, accidents can and do happen as you're well aware of. Do you have a Planned Parenthood where you live? Although I may be wrong, I don't believe you need to get parental permission for birth control if you can't talk to your father about it. If you do get a prescription for birth control, please read my article on Yaz and Yasmin (http://hubpages.com/hub/yaz-birth-control). It is not a safe birth control for anyone.
Best of luck to you.
HMMMM WELL JUST RECENTLY MY BF AND I HAD AN ACCIDENT IT HAPPND LIKE TWO WEEKS AGO BUT FOR SUM REASON I THOUGHT I WUZ PREGNANT N WE STOPED HAVN SEX BUT NOW I TNK IM STILL PREGNANT, IM 18 YEARS OLD N I JUST READ A FEW ARTICLES WHERE IT SAYS DAT U CAN BE PREGNANT N STILL GET UR FIRST MONTHS PERIOD OR SO IM SCARED DAT I MAY BE PREGNANT CUASE IM GNA CAUSE A BIG DISSAPPINTMONT ON MY PARENTZ N SINCE IM THE OLDEST IM AFRAID MY SISTERZ WILL DO THE SAME MISTAKE I DID. THIS ARTICLE HELPED ME OUT ON IDEAS ON HOW TO TELL MY PARENTZ MY SITUATION. IM STILL AFRAID THOUGH TO TELL MY DAD CAUSE HEZ A DRINKER AND IM AFRAID HE IS GNA TELL ME OFF AND ALL DAT. MY BOYFRIEND IS WITH ME COMPLETELY HE HAS TOLD ME DAT IF I AM PREGNANT WE CAN LIVE TOGETHER N RAISE OUR CHILD WE EVEN HAD PLANS ON GETN MARRIED. ITZ A RLY HARD SITUATION FOR ME CAUSE I HAVR SEEN MY DAD REACT TOUGH ON ME BEFORE DAT HE ALMOST KIKED ME OUT OF MY HOUSE ONE TIME CUZ I DITCHED SCHOOL AND IM AFRAID HE WILL DEFINATELY DO IG THIS TIME. I DNT KNOW WHAT TO DO. SHOULD I JUST TELL MY MOM OR SHOULD ME N MY BOYFRIEND TELL DEM WE WANT TO MOVE IN TOGETHER N AFTER WE DO DAT TELL DEM IM PREGNANT?
OH AND SORRY FOR THE TYPO'S ITZ CUZ I TYPE FAST N I DIDNT READ IT BEFORE POSTING IT. AND AT THE BEGGINNING I MEANT TO SAY DAT ME N MY BOYFRIEND STOPED HAVN SEX N RITE AFTER THAT I GOT MY PERIOD BUT IT LASTED FOR ONLY THREE DAYS WHICH IS ABNORMAL FOR ME BUT NOW I FEEL PREGNANT.
Hi Tiffany
I can understand your fear, especially since your dad is a drinker. If it were me, I would do several things. First, do not approach your dad about if he is drinking. Secondly, if your mom is more understanding, I would definitely tell both your parents at once. Your mom, being a female, might be more understanding than your dad. Furthermore, if you don't have too, you don't want to have to go through the conversation twice --- once with your dad and then with your mom. Furthermore, if your mom is more understanding than your dad, she might be able to intervene if things get out of control.
And no, I wouldn't tell them after announcing your going to move in with your bf. By telling them you're pregnant now, you can avoid two difficult conversations because if I know fathers, he probably won't like the idea of you moving in with your boyfriend either.
If you have any other questions or concerns, feel free to write again. I normally check this account at least once a day.
I might have to go through this on Monday because I am going to do a pregnancy test :( I feel really embarrassed that I am doing a test when I'm only a teenager
Hi Natasha
I will say my prayers for you. Don't be embarrassed though. The only difference between you and someone who isn't pregnant is fertility and luck. When I think back to my teen years; it's amazing I never got pregnant. But then, I never was able to get pregnant.
I am almost 12 weeks pregnant..but until now, I am really scared to tell my mom... I know she will be disappointed in me. I am only 21, and a Registered Nurse... My family expect too much from me....
Hi Trisha
Since you're only 21 and a Registered Nurse already, it sounds like you're a responsible young woman. Although I don't know your mom, she will get over her disappointment and fall in love with the baby after it's born. Although we can't see into the future, I am sure everything will work out for the best in the end. Accidents happen, keep your head up high. Take care...
I am a sophomore in college and I a 19 years old, me and my boyfriend has the prefect relationship, we are planning on getting married after college. Since he is transferring to another college and I am on summer break he comes visits me sometimes. Long story short he visited me on memorial day and i have not had my cycle since a week before and it is fathers day now so i kinda think i am pregnant. I already told my mother and she is disappointed but she is trying to help me (i think) and i have not told my father because he is a minister and he looks at me as his track star and expects for me to go pro. I am also terrified of what my boyfriends parents are going to do to him because his goals are to go pro in football and his parents are also crazy strict and his father is also a minister. growing up i was the ultimate good girl in everyone eyes and i made damn near all A's from elementary through high school, now this. I am scared of disappointment but if i am pregnant then i know i have to tell my father. but how? And how can my boyfriend break the news to his parents?
Hi Helena
I know you must be scared of your father's reaction, especially since he is a minister, unfortunately, there is no easy way to tell him except to just spit it out. Believe me when I say, even though he is a minister, he is not perfect either. I am glad you were raised in a faith so I can speak to you freely rather than worrying about offending you. Pray Helena. Pray that God will help you to tell your dad, and pray that your dad will accept it graciously. Of course, he is going to be disappointed, but even he has made mistakes in his life. I hope all goes well. Write back if you need to. Take care.
How I wish I could tell my mom hat I am pregnant. And since she is now in heaven I am sure she knows what is happening to me. And I am sure she is happy ;-)
Hello, i think i might be 4 weeks pregnant. Im going to get a test on thursday. If i am pregnant im scared to tell my mom. She would be so dissapointed and the only thing is im really scared because if i am pregnant my baby daddy is 20 and im only 15. I dont want my family to think of me in a bad way. I would keep the baby but how would i tell my mom. She told. if i ever got pregnant before i was 18 she would kick me out or hit me im scared of my mom.
Hi Joyce
Although I don't know your mom, I don't think she would kick you out at 15 and being pregnant. Many people say things they don't mean. Secondly, although your parents may be disappointed, they won't think of you in a bad way. Getting pregnant is a natural part of life. Unfortunately, you are just too young. If you were thinking of getting an abortion because you're scared of telling your mom, please don't do it for that reason. Think it over very carefully first, and if you decide to do that, get some counseling first. Many women regret abortions later. Even though you are only 15, I am pretty sure Planned Parenthood will counsel you for free, and it will remain confidential. Although I don't think your mom will kick you out, if she does, I am sure Social Services will help you in some way. Since you're still a minor, you won't end up out on the street; they will help you. If you're worried about your mom's reaction, do you have an adult you feel close to that will help you tell her? A minister? An Aunt? If you have any problems, please feel free to write back. You're not bad because you got pregnant. Many other girls have had sex too; they just haven't got pregnant. If you do find out you're not pregnant, please get some form of bc so you don't have to worry about this again. Good luck!
Hi all. I would like to thank the person for this article as it gives me ideas on how to tell my mum I am pregnant. I am almost 21 and so is my boyfriend, the thing is, we havent been together very long, a couple of months and because I moved in with him he has only met my mother once for a weekend when we visited. We are both petrified of telling our parents and have spoken to a Chaplain for advice. I understand our parents will soon come round and accept it but the first step is hard. Its also difficult because he is from America and his parents are there and mine are here in the UK so if i decide to move away i dont know how our parents would accept it. help!
My boyfriend of 3 years and i recently had unprotected sex. but before 3 minutes we stopped to use a condom. But now I'm a bit paranoid that I'm pregnant. Were both 21, both working,he has an apartment, and i also go to school and am working toward an early childhood education degree. I have the usual cramps and my period is due but nothing yet. The only thing I'm scared of is my family's response. All my aunts, cousins, and my mom had children at a young age, my mom was 19 when she had my brother. This article was helpful it's just very scary =/
okay so me and my boyfriend have been together for a longggg time, im going to be 18 in a month and i graduated from high school and currently attending community college part time and trying to find a job.
my boyfriend is 19, graduated high school, dont have a job but gets an income from the state every month.
we have always had unprotected sex, and he dosent pull out. i guess we just never thought about the fact of getting pregnant, but now that we have been doing it...im thinking im about 3-4 weeks pregnant. i live with my grandparents who adopted me...and they already dont approve of me dating my boyfriend cause of the racial difference. he's black, im white. i guess they dont believe in that. Im beyond scared to tell them...and dont even know how i would confront them about it. im scared...and i was thinking about waiting till i was 18 on september 16th, but im not sure if that would harm my baby in any way?
& adoption is not an option and neither is abortion.
i made this...im taking responsibility for my actions.
Welcome to HubPages :) Very well written Hub pertaining to a much needed discussion not only for the young ladies but for their partners as well !
hi guys.I'm 20 and i'm pregnant. I come from a very conservative family and i do not know how to go about tellig my parents. Fortunately for me, my boyfriend is 32 and is supportive of me. However we are scared of how our parents reaction will be. My dad has even told me tat he will kick me out of the house if i ever were to get pregnant. We've talked about abortion, but everytime we do, i'll break down in tears. Its my baby, and i love it. Pls, HELP!
Hi ilovemybaby
Don't get an abortion out fear...you will regret it the rest of your life! There isn't any easy way to tell your parents. You'll just have to tell them and let the pieces fall where they may. They will adjust in time, believe me, they do. Good luck!
i have just recently found out that im pregnant. i was with my boyfriend for 6 years and had left because it was an unhealthy relationship. my parents and family supported me and im supposed to be attending college next year. my ex had come to visit me where i am now and had a night of "catching up". i feel so ashamed and terrified about how im going to tell my parents after theyve gone through so much trouble in helping me.i dont know what to do and how im supposed to tell them. also my mother has high blood pressure and she has always said she hopes i never get back with him, im afraid if i tell her shes going to literally have a heart attack..please help!
Hi Bridget
I know you're scared, but it isn't going to get any easier by waiting. Pick whichever way in the article feels the most comfortable for you. I am sure they love you, and they will adjust. In fact, as the baby gets closer to being born, I bet your mom will be out buying baby clothes for it.
Hi, my best friend is pregnant and shes only 16, now she doesnt know for sure if she is pregnant but shes had most of the symptoms and is going to take a pregnancy test soon. If she is pregnant how should she tell her parents? Her and her boyfriend (who is also 16) have been dating for about 6 months and hes just as worried as she is. He has sworn to stick by her side no matter what and wants to continue school to help for a better future life for them because im guessing hes an "A" student. They both have parents that love them and they are trying to figure out how to tell their parents the news. Should they do it seperately or together to both parents? Please help, they are both extremely worried and I hate seeing my bestie like this. Thanks!
Hi Laila
I've thought about your question. Although there is no easy way to tell the parents, I suggest they tell their parents individually. The reason for this is because his or her parents might have a tendency to blame the other person in the relationship, and consequently, the conversation could become ugly. In some situations, parents do not want to accept the responsibility that their child may have done something wrong. Actually, if they could find a trusted adult (like an aunt or uncle) -- not their bf or gf -- to go with them, it might go better. Regardless of whether an adult goes with them, it is important to remember to be honest and have an attitude where they accept responsibility. It would also be better if they had a firm idea of how they are going to handle the situation ie. adoption, keep the baby before the discussion. I might even suggest they call Planned Parenthood for a counseling session before they tell their parents. This may help them clarify what they are going to do with the baby beforehand. In the meantime, I am sure your continued support is very important to her. I wish them the best of luck. I can imagine how scared they must be. The sooner they get this conversation over with, the sooner they can stop worrying about how their parents are going to react.
im about 5 weeks pregnant, my parents hate my boyfriend with a passion. we have been split up but now were working things out since weve found out im pregnant. i have no job, my boyfriend has no job and a criminal record. i know i have to tell my parents my news, i just am so envy of people who get to enjoy sharing the news, i feel like this should be good news not bad news...
Hello I really liked this article, although both of my parents do not have the best health in the world, I am so scared to tell them that I may be pregnant. I am a senior in high school and only 18 years old. My boyfriend is 19 and dropped out. My parents hold my schooling very high, and because he dropped out there is much tension when it comes to the thought of him being a husband / father and providing for his family. My parents want the best for me and I completely understand that, but I regret not waiting until I was married, I am pro choice but to a certain extent. Why kill something that did not have a say at all? It was my own fault, I shouldn't have been so I'd hate to use this disgusting word but.. easy and willing to lose my virginity at 18 years old. I want my boyfriend and I to both sit down with them and tell them, I am just so afraid that I will need an ambulance at the end of the conversation. May I please have some advice or even a comment as to what to do.
Regretts
I wish there was some profound advice I could give you, but there isn't. I would not recommend an abortion as I think most people regret it. There is no easy way to tell your parents. As I said in the article, pick the best timing you can and just tell them. They will adjust. Maybe your bf can get his GED. Being a high school dropout isn't the end the world. At this point, there isn't anywhere to go but up so try to keep a positive attitude and focus on how to get through this problem.
Arianna
Under different circumstances, this would be good news, but your parents know how tough raising kids is and how hard it will be on you. Now that you are pregnant yourself, honestly, if you had a daughter, would you want her to marry someone that was a criminal record and no job? No, you would want the best for her and starting out life with those problems makes things very hard financially, for both you and your baby, and unfortunately, whether we like it or not, money is important in the scheme of things. Both you and he will have to work hard to overcome your problems. With the right mindset and determination, you can succeed. Maybe while you're pregnant, he can go back to school and get a trade. If he shows he ready to improve, I think most employers will give hime a chance. Good luck!
A good thought but real problem is not the girl who are educated. Such problem mostly with the girl who can read & write
Iam 16 years old. I just recently found out that I am pregnant again-please dont judge me. The first time I got pregant my mom cursed me out and she hit me in my stomach. Two days later she told me I was getting an abortion. The abortion clinic told her to put me on birth controll but she refuse. I'm now pregnant again due to being drunk and having sex (my stupid self), the father who is 18 wants me to get an abortion but Im i cant go thru the same emotional pain. I was just wonder how you tell a parent who is violent that you got preganant again and you are going to keep it this time around?
i have taken a home pregnancy test and it came back negative but i am feeling really different so i asked my aunt and uncal what they thought it could be and they said that i might be pregnant. I have never felt this way in my whole life so i think that i am pregnant but they thing is i am only 16 years old. i live with my dad and my mom is in a different city. idk how to tell my parents any of this because i know i will be dissapointing them so much. my boyfriend is scard too becuase we are both not ready but we want to keep it and finish school.
Hi Kathy
If you're scared your parent will be abusive, bring a trusted adult with you when you tell them. Good luck!
Hi Ashley
As I've told the other girls, there is no easy way to tell your parents. Hopefully, one of the suggestions I recommended in the article will make it a little bit easier. Take care
So, im 15 & my period was due today i had felt like i was going to get my period you know the usual signs but it isnt here.. My boyfriend is also 15 he is sure that he was completely safe and that he pulled out in time but i'm not so sure.. Im scared to death.. If i am my mom will neverrr trust me again i feel like.. My 19 year old sister lives with her boyfriend and isnt pregnant, my mom doesn't believe in sex before marrage so i have noo idea what to do or how to do it.
Hi Imlost
If your bf told you that you wouldn't get pregnant by him pulling out, he either lied to you or he is ignorant. When a man gets excited, he emits a few drops of seminal fluid. This seminal fluid contains sperm which can impregnate you. When a man tells you that you will not get pregnant as long as he withdraws first, he is wrong.
I'm 28, I live with my dad my mother passed 2 yrs ago. I have sarcoidosis and kidney problems so my health has been an issue and struggle for the past 5 yrs..I am 4 months and so far everything is great with the baby health and growth and mine is good..I shouldn't feel like I'm disappointing my dad or letting him down.. me and fiance plan to tell him next week that I'm moving out and pregnant..I've been helping my dad with my 14 yr sister since my mother passing..I plan to take him out to lunch or dinner and tell him. Is this a good decision or approach?
Hi I am 16 years old the last time I had sex with my bf was around the ending of novmember I was on birth controll so we never used protection . I have no idea how to tell my parents I am pregnant I haven't got my period yet and it is janueary 6th I have a doctors appointment on jan 18th but I need help plz I am so young and don't know what to do about this . My bf is 18 and he told his mom now we can't talk ot see eacother or anything but I love him so much . We just had broke up but we r trying he wants an abortion but I just can't do it I love my baby already today is around 5-6 weeks so that means my babies heart has just starting beating :'( plz help
Well I just found out that im pregnant yesterday, i took an pregnancy test and it came back out positive. Im tryin to find a way to tell my parents. I need a way to tell my parents i want to tell my father first cause i know he would be there for me no matter what but i know tellin my mother that im pregnant going to hurt her. but im lost need help tellin my parents
I'm 20 years old, a sophomore in college, and 32 weeks pregnant. When I first told my mom she wanted me to come home because the father was mistreating me and cheating on me. I went to visit my best friend for a couple weeks to get over the break up and returned home to my mom for college supplies shopping. She started to put tampons in the cart, when I said mom why are you buying me these? She replied you'll need them in college Mo. I said not for a while lol and she flipped out on me in Walmart when I had to explain to her AGAIN that I was pregnant. It's like she forgot while I was visiting my friend for 2 weeks. She immediately called my stepfather and told me I hadto get an abortion. For months we fought and I refused. Finally I told her I'd go and get it done, which is now obviously a lie. I was "fluffy" when I got pregnant anyway so hiding it has been easy, although the guilt is eating me alive. My father knows everything Including my intentions of keeping my daughter. My mom is a HOT head with a terrible temper and I'm still terrified to tell her. I'm due march 10, 2011 today is January 18, 2011 and I still have no clue how I am going to tell her... :(
Hi Unique
You have probably told your dad by now, and I hope the conversation went well for you. If you haven't told him yet, yes, I think that is an excellent idea. Good luck!
Hi Tashawii
I am sorry you are going through this. It will be hard to raise a child on your own, but if you don't want an abortion, don't let anyone talk you into it. As I've already told other girls, there is not easy or perfect way to your parents. I hope they will give you emotional support at least. Take care.
im not ready to tell my parents that im pregnet or my boyfriiend im only 17 and i know my dad will cry and kik me out
im almost a 100% im pregnant, and im scared out of my pants to tell my mom. The babys father is behind me a 110% but i feel as if im ruining his dreams, and goals. Abortion is not an option, and i am highly against it. and his family would be against an adoption, which only really leaves raising the baby. I am 14, and he is 17, which also makes it hard. We were thinking about waiting 3 months to tell my mom incase i miscarry, because we didnt want to get in all that trouble, and unable to see each other if i lose the baby. but im starting to second guess that. help?
ok so i think im 2 weeks. My boy firend is 23. i have no clue how i and goin to tell my gram( i live with me gram because i got taken for my mom and dad). i dont want them to get mad at me. I think im ready to be a mom and i dont know if my boyfriend can deal with the news. And i dont know if ill be alone through out the whole thing.
i'm 16 yrs. old (i'm not pregnant actually) and im concerned to the situation of what my sister has today. I might say she is not a teen anymore, she's already mature in her age at 23,.her age being pregnant and still unmarried. She is still under parents' roof. And her baby is now 3 months in her womb. From that, we can consider her situation as "premarital pregnancy". The first time she told me about her being pregnant (3 months already), i was so shocked. i dont know but i felt mad and disappointed to her that time. She told me the whole thing..although it requires a long time for me to relieve my impulsive emotions. Actually, among the family, i am the first one being told by her. I know that she believe and trust in me (i felt glad). After that, i understand her. I stayed calm. I listened to her. The prob is that she is afraid to tell our parents everything about her now. Especially dad doesn't like the guy/ her bf.
As her sister, i am really trying to do my best concern and full support to her. And i know she needs my comfort. She has her baby with now in her belly. im afraid, depressing herself will also affect the baby's health. i am also trying to help her how to tell our parents about that although i think it's very difficult. And now as i have read the article, it's such a great help to her..(later i'll tell her about this)...
Thank you so much for this article...may God bless you :)
Hi Esorlirpa
You sound like a great sister. She's lucky to have your support.
I'm a 14 year old girl and i babysit my cousins every weekend while my parents visit the mother of my cousins. she's is in rehab.my cousins make my day a whole lot better.i want a child, like every time i go to the mall i see girls with babies and i get jealous that i don't have a gift for heaven in my arms or by my side.my mind and heart have 2 totally different thoughts of having a baby.i know the consequences of getting pregnant.I'm just scared that if i do get pregnant my dad is going to kick me out and i will have no where to go. my dad is a big guy and works at FedEx and he is not open minded when it comes to things like this.my mom is attending school to be a doctors assistance and she doesn't have a job (right now).my brother has a job but he's in training right now and i wouldn't want to burden him with helping raise my child.i plan to finish school,get a job,get my own place,and go to college.but i know in reality things are not going to happen so easily.i want a baby so bad that I'm making lists as to where i can get things that a baby will need and I'm even looking up apartments in my city just in case.i don't know what to do...help is needed quick before i actually do get pregnant
Hi Babyboo
I'm not sure why you want a baby so badly. Is it because you think the baby will bring you the love you may feel like you're lacking in life? If so, trust me, it is not like this. Although a baby may love you, since they are so helpless, they can't give you the kind of love you crave, and soon, you will tire of always having to care for someone else, not being able to do things with your friends, and financially struggling all the time. If you were to become pregnant, how are you going to support it? Welfare does not last forever nowadays. There is a limit on it. Do you really want to spend the next 20 years in poverty? I am not trying to be uncaring, but you would be wise to wait until you at least finish school and can find a husband who has a promising career. Although boys may say they love you at 14, they will soon bail on you when faced with the responsibilites of a baby and wife at an age where they have no hope supporting a family. Please wait until you able to handle this responsibility. If you do, looking back at it later, you will be glad you waited. Finish school and pray for the love you crave.
Hi,
I'm 23 years old, living with my boyfriend of 6 years and found out 2 weeks ago that I'm pregnant. It seems as though there's no reason for me to be afraid to approach my mother to tell her I'm pregnant, but I'm terrified. Her and I have always had a rocky relationship, and she's never liked my boyfriend...even though it's been so long. We both work full-time and he's excited for the baby even though it came as a surprise for the both of us. My mother has always been very judgemental of me and I guess it is receiving any sort of negativity from her that I'm afraid of and I don't know how I would handle it. Do you have any suggestions for approaching her so she doesn't start with her nasty comments that she normally makes at me for minor things?
Thanks alot. Any advice would be really appreciated.
OMG UNSURE NAT my mom is the same way although she has reason not to like my Husband we married really young at 21 , now im 23 now but my husband cheated 9 months ago and we split , but we have started to work things out . I just found out im 6 weeks preg. And normally telling my folks wouldnt be a bad idea except that they still hate him for what he did to me 9 months ago. I am terrifyed of telling them.
UnsureNat & aescam21
This is my advice - Try to talk to them as gently as you can. If they start yelling or criticizing, tell them you are not going to discuss it until they can talk calmly without criticizing and then walk out of the room. Good luck!
hi
i live in australia, w.a
i am 14 and my boyfriend is 18. im turning 15 in a couple of weeks and he is turning 19 at the end of the year.
i think i might b pregnant, i dont know if i should go get a test now or wait 1 week for my period and see if it comes or not. i did have some bleeding which i think might have been spotting but it was only the amount of a thumb finger nail than i had no more. could it be spotting? i really hope im not pregnant because my bf is 18 nearly 19 so he will go to jail and i cant raise a baby on my own. my parents will kill me and kick me out of home if i am pregnant. HELP PLEASE!
Scared Girl, you should probably take a test, because uncertainty is a worse feeling than being pregnant. Go to the store and buy a test. If you can't, have a friend do it. You might be freaking out now, but that feeling will go away, and if it doesn't, keep in mind that feeling constant fear is awful for you both mentally, and physically, and blow situations out of proportion. If you are pregnant, and truly feel for your own safety that you cannot tell your dad, go to an adult, not just any adult, but one who will not misguide you. As you are so young, and I was a teenage parent as well, I would certainly suggest you and that other trusted adult, either your dad or someone else, find out as much as you can about adoption. You are only going to hurt yourself and your child if you keep it a secret, especially if it's only to save your boyfriend. It is possible that he may support you, but more often than not, statutory rape laws are in place for a reason only adults can seem to understand. You will be ok as long as you make decisions in yours and your maybe baby's interest.
I live in sri lanka.. and there is a huge culture in sri lanka..if a girl get pregnant before the marriage they are recognized as prostitute..some parents will look after their daughter and they will do what they can do for their daughter. but most of them wont do that. My problem is that yesterday i met my BF and we had sex...sex means not F**k. Without that we did everything. his sperms were allover my legs. I feel that sperms enter my body..am not 100% sure of that..its just a feeling and now am so scared...we will be getting married after 5 years. but am still schooling. am 18 and my BF is 21. I cant raise a baby before getting married. my parents will kill me..I just want to know whether can i be pregnant? can a sperm can enter my body like that? plz help me....
Hi Scared Girl
Since sperm can travel on their own, I imagine it's a remotoe possibility. I remember an Ann Lander's article I read years ago. The girl was pregnant, and yet, she swore up and down that she didn't have sex. What they finally figured out was that the father had masturbated in the tub, and she took a bath after him. Apparently, one of his sperm left in the tub impregnated her. All I can say is if you're religious, pray about it, and don't let the boyfriend do something like that again. Unfortunately, if you do get pregnant, it sounds like you will be the one pay for it so dearly, no him.
Sphinxycat
Thanks for helping her. Great answer!
thanks for your reply. can you tell me are there any pills to stop being pregnant or to take after being pregnant?
Yes, i think that they are sold behind the counter, so you will have to ask a pharmacist. The problem is, i think you have to take them within 72 hours. . Otherwise, the only way to terminate a pregnancy is abortion, which is a very serious decision. I don't know your parents, but if you feel like they can't help you, go to a school counselor, and DONT BE EMBARASSED..
Scare girl
Other than hearing about the controversy about the morning after pill over the years, I don't know anything about abortion pills. I google them. Although this is a US article, here's a link about them: http://www.reuters.com/article/2011/07/26/us-abort
Scared girl
Although I know the culture is different in your country, and you're scared, definitely, don't commit suicide. Although I normally wouldn't say this except that you believe in God, remember God is always, always with you even though it may not seem like it. There's a verse in the bible, I think it's Romans 8:28, it says, "In all things, God works for the good of those who love him, for those who are called according to his purpose. Even on the remote chance you may be pregnant, please think it over very carefully before you take an abortion pill if they are even allowed in your country. If you need anything else, please let me know...
Scared Girl,
Are you Buddhist?
No i can't commit suicide..Caz it will effect to my parents. I don't want hurt them like that...They really love me and they expect a lot from me...I know if i become pregnant i don't able to do what they want me to do...am so worried about that...not about me..yes sphinxycat01 am Buddhist..I believe in lord Buddha. I haven't done anything wrong to anyone..so i think god will forgive me for this thing...if i become pregnant that means he haven't forgive me...now am ready to obey his decision. rest of my life is in his hand...now am not sad about me...am happy....thank you for helping me....thank you very much!! God Bless you!
Scared Girl, I have read so many books by the Dalai Lama, and I have read the Dhammapada, many of the Upanishads, the Brahma Samhita, Gita, etc. Buddhism and Hindu fascinate me! So nice to meet you online. Namaste
Scared girl
I've been worried about you; I am relieved you won't try to commit suicide. The chances of you being pregnant from the manner that it happened are very, very remote. Forgive my ignorance, but I don't know anything about Buddhism. However, I am postive everything will work out. Drop me a line, and let me know how everything turned out, okay? My prayers and thoughts are with you.
ya i will tell you what happened....Thank you very much seamist and sphinxycat01..this helped me alot...Thanks!
You're welcome. Stand in your fatih and take care.
hi about a week ago my coil fell out !!! :(
iv just turned 18 and my partner is 17 im scared as i had a miscarage a year ago and i think i may be pregnant again !!
and im scared of telling my parents and my partner but i cant have an abortion as i dont want to feel how i felt last year bacically like shit anyway im in my 2nd year of college and my parents are really proud as im a newly qualified hairdresser and i have just got over the miscarage and started having fun with friends again instead of moping around all the time !!
Any way should i hide it away from them unill im about 18 weeks pregnant and then tell them so they cant tell me to get rid !!! or should i run off with my boyfriend as this could be a new biginning with my partner and my baby and just because im 18 i will not treat my baby like its unwanted xx
i'm 18 my bf is 21 & i just recently found out that im 9weeks pregnant . I'm fresh outta highschool ,i'm working and attenting communtiy college . You can say i have a pretty good head on my shoulders which is why i'm so petrified to tell my father whom i live with. Today i told my aunt & we plan to tell my dad tonight but i'm terrified of what he'll do or say . I know nothing i do or say will stop him from being upset but i just need prayer from everybody . please & thank you !
I am only 16 years old. My boyfriend who i have been with for almost a year is 19. My parents dont like him very much. I am really scared on how they will react to my situation. I need advice.
I'm 18 and recently ive been having symptoms that are abnormal for me. I'm scared that I'm pregnant. Lately my breasts have been super tender. And my body has been achy. I don't know what to do if I am pregnant. I was thinking about leaving my house and leaving a note for my mom to read and telling her that I'm pregnant and I'm keeping the baby. Telling her that I'm staying at a friends house and that she can get ahold of me if she needs. Telling her in the note that I would like her to tell my dad (which is one of the reasons I want to leave the house because I know how mad he would be and how dissapointed.) and I will only come home when he finally accepts the fact that I'm pregnant. :-/
Can anyone help me.? I'm scared.
I am 20 years old and recently my best friend since we were were little and the one that helped introduce me to my fiance who is 22 just told me that she is pregnant 6 days ago and her and her baby daddy have already told his family and they're really exited about it. Well apparently her baby daddy's mom told her sister recently who's son used to date her (yes the baby's daddy and this other Guy are cousins) and her son has already took it upon himself to try to tell everybody before she could even get the chance to tell her family... he was trying to talk trash about her to my friends sister who went and told my friend. He had mentioned something to her ... now I had already suggested to my friend that she hurry and tell her mom while she was down for a visit toaweekend but now she feels as though she has no other choice but to tell her mom that she is pregnant as soon as possible. I already know that her mom is about to raise a hundred dollars worth of hell over this!!!!!! She is about to.be very judgmental and everything. She is the kind that tris to throw the scripture in yur face when her life aint together and tris to judge when lord knows she has no room to. But I had also tried to tell her before she got pregnant that they should be using protection especially since they live together. The first person that I ever had sex with was my now fiance and the same goes for him and we had been together over a yr before we ever did anything and now that we're engaged we both decided that we want to abstain from sex til we're married and we've been together for over 3 years. And I tried to tlk my fiend into the same thing. But she informed me as of this morning that she is thinking about leaving the baby's daddy. I know its going o be very hard in her if she decides to raise this child on her own. Den though I will be here to support her. I read this article and it has really given me some ideas to give to her on how to tell her mom. This article is very helpful and I really appreciate it.
I am 27 weeks pregnant and I do not want to tell my parents. Me and my boyfriend are planning on keeping it a secret until we can and then when it is almost time for labor I will stay with a friend for a month until the adoption is settled. The only this is I am scared and if something goes wrong, I would want my parents to be there. It is just I do not want them to know because they have such high hopes for me. I am going to be 20 in a month and working a part time job. Sophomore in college and just telling my mom that I am pregnant would completely crush her. What should I do?
This is a great hub, and I echo what mdawson17 said way above. I feel that this hub will be so useful for teens who find themselves to be pregnant, and for their parents who are trying to get over the shock and help them the best way they can. Voted up, and (extremely) useful!
hey seamist,
hope u can remember me..thanks for your help...but now am really Happy tell that AM NOT PREGNANT....!!! :) i will never do that mistake again....thank you!!
Hey Scared Girl
Yaahh! I am so glad you're happy and doing well. Thank you so much for letting me know. Fly girl and be all you can be!
Scared Girl
I am so proud of you!
@MoonDaisy
Thank you. I hope it will help young women that find themselves in this situation.
i will never forget you and this website,because this helped me a lot. yes now am very happy.living happily........THANKS A LOT!
Scared Girl
Thank you; I appreciate it. Pass the help you recieved here forward by helping others. May God love you and bless you throughout your life.
yeah for sure...i will.....tc
Hi. My name is Nicole i have been with my boyfriend for awhile now. An we think i am pregnant. I am 16 and my boyfriend is 19. He told me if i am he is going to stick by me every step of the way. My parents dont like him at all. I am very scared to tell them that i may be pregnant. I am dont know what to do. Because when we seen a friend of mine who is the same age as me and pregnant my mom had looked at me an said that she would kill me. But it was said jokingly. I have highly considered running away. But i do NOT want my baby or I to suffer because of it. I am going to take the test on the 24th to find out so i could really use some kind of advice right now.
im goin threw this right now but this has helped me out alot im 19 and scared to tell my parents whats going on but i have people there for me no matter what :) i need advise on what to do idk anythin about being a mommy
thank you for this i appriciapte this page
So I'm 16 and I just had a incedent with my boyfriend that put us both in the hospital nothing to serious but it gave my mom which is a kinda strict mom a bad appression of my boyfriend who she barley knows he's really a nice boyfriend probably one of the worlds best oh an he's 18 and my mom says if he still wants to be with me he has to win her trust back but we just found out I'm pregnant and now were both scared because this is going to disappoint her again on my boyfriend it hasn't even been that long since the hospital incident. My boyfriend says he want to sit with me and my mom ( have no dad) and tell her I'm pregnant but I know he scared and I'm scared for both of us because of my moms reaction towards the situation I don't want her to flip out on him what should I do to make this situation a little better so that she'll be some what cool with me having a baby and my boyfriend who which she barley knows of they have talked befor and the father of my baby is planning to take full responsibility of our child
So I'm 16 and I just had a incedent with my boyfriend that put us both in the hospital nothing to serious but it gave my mom which is a kinda strict mom a bad appression of my boyfriend who she barley knows he's really a nice boyfriend probably one of the worlds best oh an he's 18 and my mom says if he still wants to be with me he has to win her trust back but we just found out I'm pregnant and now were both scared because this is going to disappoint her again on my boyfriend it hasn't even been that long since the hospital incident. My boyfriend says he want to sit with me and my mom ( have no dad) and tell her I'm pregnant but I know he scared and I'm scared for both of us because of my moms reaction towards the situation I don't want her to flip out on him what should I do to make this situation a little better so that she'll be some what cool with me having a baby and my boyfriend who which she barley knows of they have talked befor and the father of my baby is planning to take full responsibility of our child
Hi I'm 21 and just took a test a couple days ago. It was positive, my sister is also pregnant and due in march Idk how to tell my parents without them think i did it on peruse plus I just moved back home from living with my fience I'm still talking to him and still want a relationship but the living arrangements were not working. I'm going to wait til after the holidays sence we just lost my lil sister a month ago from a bad car crash. But I'm very scared.
Hi I'm 21 and just took a test a couple days ago. It was positive, my sister is also pregnant and due in march Idk how to tell my parents without them think i did it on peruse plus I just moved back home from living with my fience I'm still talking to him and still want a relationship but the living arrangements were not working. I'm going to wait til after the holidays sence we just lost my lil sister a month ago from a bad car crash. But I'm very scared.
I am 20 n i got pregnant in June 2011,i was too scared to tel my parents cos they have always being there and i made a lot of promises to them but my bf who is only 22 encouraged me cos he won't even hear about an abortion and now everyone is happily preparing for and expecting my baby by February 2012 but it was tough,really tough.
So i found out a week or so ago i was pregnant by 2 home pregnancy tests. I went to the doctor today to get it cofirmed and yes i am pregnant. I am 19 and he is 27 we have been dating for almost 4 years now and living together for 2 years. I am so nervous to tell my parents. They like my boyfriend and everything but im still not sure how its going to go. Can u help me not be so nervous? and we plan on doing a phone call but one at a time.. Me and my Boyfriend on my speakerphone.
I am 15, and I recently had sex 3 times in the same day. He didn't wear potection all 3 times, and now I am scared. I mean its only been a few days, but I am still scared he didn't pull out in time at least one of the times. I lie with my dad and my brother. My brothr is 21. I make good grades, and my dad always tells me I have a good future. I am scared to death because if I do end up pregnant id be so scared to tell them, they'd never forgive me. My dad also hates my boyfriend because he cheated before, but we worked things out. All I can do is cry, I'm so scared. I don't want to be pregnant. I just don't know what to do. My boyfriend tells me that if I am he will be with me 10 percent. Help me! I'm daddys little girl, and he will go crazy. I don't even know for sure yet and I'm already freakin out.
I am 15, and I recently had sex 3 times in the same day. He didn't wear potection all 3 times, and now I am scared. I mean its only been a few days, but I am still scared he didn't pull out in time at least one of the times. I lie with my dad and my brother. My brothr is 21. I make good grades, and my dad always tells me I have a good future. I am scared to death because if I do end up pregnant id be so scared to tell them, they'd never forgive me. My dad also hates my boyfriend because he cheated before, but we worked things out. All I can do is cry, I'm so scared. I don't want to be pregnant. I just don't know what to do. My boyfriend tells me that if I am he will be with me 10 percent. Help me! I'm daddys little girl, and he will go crazy. I don't even know for sure yet and I'm already freakin out.
am going thru da same thing now, am a freshmen in college and am 4months pregnant i couldnt tell my family exp my dad cuz i knew he will be more than mad, first da guy who got me pregnant well my ex, broke up wit me two months after i told him, i was there at his house wen he brought another girl in n had sex wit her two days after he told me it was over between us, cuz is not working between us, i was more than mad, i was disappointed he threw my stuff out kick me out, cuz i didnt wanna abort da baby, i was scared n still scared to go home to my dad, well my bestfriend called my dad to tell him everything, he is still mad n told me"u know if one of u my children get pregnant u r not moving back in to dis house" i told him everything between me n da guy but still he is mad, so i took dat us he kick me out so i went to my friend place n am staying wit her n her family, well her family, they r really disappointed but da mom told me everybody makes mistakes once in their life so i shouldnt stress myself.i was there da whole winter break, then i went over to get my stuff n my stepmom told me to hurry up get my stuff n leave n never come back, so basically idk wat to do, am back to school wit no help, sometimes i feel like this is da end of my life
Hi i am 13 years old and i think that i am pregnant. i havent had my period in one month and today is the day that me and my bf had sex last month. He is 15 we are both in the same grade, i took a 72 hour pill but i dont think that it worked. His family knows because they were the ones that got the pill, i have told my school gudince cousinler and she said that i should tell my mom asap but im super scared!! Should i get his parents to come to my house with him so we can tell my mom at the same time?? I have no clue how to tell her, HELP Me!!!! Please
Ladybird33 Level 1 Commenter 2 years ago
My niece just went through this, wish I had this article. Very good one.